I hate my life…
When Chuck suggested this post title to me, I immediately wondered if he had looked at my past.
Truth be told, he found an absolute expert on this subject.
For many years, I did hate my life. But I did not know what, or how to make it better. Just to give you a slight idea on why I hated life:
- Emotional abuse as a teen (from a stepfather who is now deceased) had me leaving home as a runaway at 15-years old.
- I wed at 18 and joined the Army, but because of an injury from a car accident years before, I was given a medical discharge about half way through AIT. Back home with no job.
- I sold marijuana to feed my family and was caught. 3 to 6 years in prison. Yea, I hated life.
But you know what? I am somewhat fibbing because even through that, I never actually hated my life.
I knew I had something to offer the world and I set out to discover what that was.
There were forces at work trying to make me hate my life. After all…
- My Grandson was killed at 23-months old. I felt it was murder, but no charges ever filed.
- My home burned.
- My wife of 30-years passed away.
- My daughter was found dead.
But guess what? I have never and will never hate my life. And, I am always looking for ways to make it better.
I Hate My Life: 10 Ways to Make it Better
With all the experience I have with bad things in life and my standing through them, I believe I can give you some tips on how to make your life better.
So here are 10 ways.
1: Seek Your Higher Power
Personally, I am a Christian. I read the Bible and pray and I believe this has helped me immensely.
I understand that you may not have the same faith as I do and I will not say that you must. You have a choice. I will say that I believe that anyone that calls themselves an atheist is deceiving themselves. I think everyone has some kind of higher power and that is all I will say on that.
For me, God has made my life better.
Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.
~ John 8:12 English Standard Version (ESV)
2: Quit Asking “Why Me?”
There is no sense in asking why me…
I have discovered that using “what can I do now?” or “what’s next?” gives you the power and control to determine your future.
Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
~Dennis P. Kimbro
3: Get The Negative Out
While I could have separated this into several tips, I believe one will do:
- Stop thinking and speaking negatively
- Stay clear of negative people
- Don’t read or watch negative media
This isn’t easy, but it is possible. You just need to recognize where, when and who the negative is coming and escape to a positive zone.
Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.
~ Mary Lou Retton
4: Have Someone You Can Talk With
Everyone needs someone they can trust with their secrets and emotions. I suggest you find that person you know is willing to listen without being judgmental. It could be a friend, a counselor, a pastor… Just find the person you know will listen and uplift you.
The best listeners listen between the lines.
~ Nina Malkin, Swoon
5: Be Grateful
Here is my tip… three times every day, take just a few minutes and name everything you are grateful for that day. It can be the simplest of things or highly complex. Just voice your gratefulness.
Guess what… I am grateful for those of you who are reading this; I am grateful that I have the ability to write, and I am grateful that Chuck Holmes owns this blog and allows me to write here.
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
~ Oprah Winfrey
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6: Make A Choice To Be Happy
Happiness isn’t a brand new Ferrari. Happiness isn’t a cruise to the Caribbean.
You see, happiness can be had no matter the circumstances. It is simply your choice.
Sure, the Ferrari sounds great and I will reach to get it. The Caribbean is wonderful… I know because I live in Puerto Rico.
But, I would still be happy even if I was living in a shack in Siberia because happiness is a choice and should not be dependent on material items.
Happiness is a choice, you cannot choose what happens, but you can choose your reaction to it and be happy.
7: Quit Fearing Failure
One of the biggest underlying reasons people hate their lives is because they fear failure.
They fear failing so much, they are unwilling to try anything new. Life is a series of risks and the only way a person can actually find success is to fail their way to it.
Learn to embrace failure and you will find a love for life you cannot possibly imagine.
The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
There is nothing like an early morning jog or bicycle ride.
Exercise is a great way to realize that you do love yourself and your life. Get in shape and you will fall back in love with life.
Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.
~ Jim Rohn
9: Eat Right
Many people need to realize that what they are putting in their bodies is also a leading factor in how they feel about life. Learn to eat healthier and you will feel healthier.
Your diet is a bank account. Good food choices are good investments.
~ Bethenny Frankel
10: Focus On Others
I have discovered that when I focus on solving other people’s problems, I also solve my own problems.
The more you give, the more you get. The person who helps others receives the greatest reward, a feeling of importance and making a difference.
No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.
~ Charles Dickens
Remember, life is what you make it. It may seem bad, but believe me, someone else is in much worse shape.
I hope this post helped get you out of any “funk” you may be in. I know that hard times come, but life is now, so live it and love it.
Any questions? Any comments? Leave them below. Thanks.
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. ~ Kevyn Aucoin