Today, I want to take a few moments and educate you about dream stealers.
I define a dream stealer as someone who constantly tries to bring you down and destroy your ambitions, hopes and dreams. They’re negative, unsupportive, and downright annoying.
Dream Stealers are everywhere. Spend even two minutes on the internet and you will know what I am talking about.
They are the people who are SKEPTICAL of everything. They’re stuck in their own comfort zone and they don’t want to change (even if they are unhappy and unsuccessful).
Even worse, they don’t want any of their friends or family members to change, because they fear them becoming successful (which would make themselves a failure in their own eyes).
When you hang out with a dream stealer and talk about your ideas for success, they always focus on the negative.
They talk about your past failures. They talk about statistics or failure rates. They focus on all the reasons why they think you won’t succeed, rather than focus on the reasons that you could succeed.
WHY ARE PEOPLE DREAM STEALERS?
I think the biggest fear that dream stealers have is that you will become successful.
And if you become successful, it will challenge them and challenge their own way of thinking.
It’s as if your success would make them a failure. And that is what they fear the most.
They do not want to be forced out of their comfort zone, even if they are unsuccessful and unhappy.
How do you know who the dream stealers are in your life?
It’s actually quite easy to figure out. Just talk about your ideas and dreams with the people you know and wait for their reaction.
Talk about your hopes and dreams for your business, or your life. Talk about where you see yourself in five years. Talk about why you are building your network marketing business.
When you’re hanging around a dream stealer, and you tell them any of these things, they will immediately focus on the negative.
They’ll tell you all the reasons you won’t succeed. They’ll do anything they can to get you to quit or doubt yourself. They might even try to sabotage your success by talking badly about you to others.
In some cases, they might even think their reasoning is justified. They don’t want to see you get hurt or fail, so they see it as their duty to talk you out of it.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Unfortunately, dream stealers are normally the people closest to us. It could be our spouse, parents, friends, co-workers, family members, and acquaintances.
As a result, we often listen to these people whenever we want to change our life. This applies to network marketing, dieting, lifestyle changing, career changes, dating someone new, and countless other things.
Because we listen to them and follow their advice, we let them steal our dream.
Many people THINK they know what is best for us. The truth is only you know what is best for you.
If the people in your closest sphere of influence aren’t going to be supportive, your journey to success will be an uphill battle.
My best advice is simply to ignore what they are telling you and do what you think is best for you.
I can’t tell you how many people have given up on their dreams because of dream stealers.
I almost fell into that trap myself. Thank goodness I followed my own instincts.
At the end of the day, you want to surround yourself with positive people who uplift you and encourage you and bring out the best in you. If everyone in your inner circle is negative and unsupportive, you are hanging around the wrong people. It might be time to find some new friends.
THE STORY OF THE CRAB
I’d like to close out the post by telling you a short story.
If you’ve ever bought crabs from the seafood section at your grocery store and brought them home to cook them, you probably discovered something pretty crazy.
When you have one crab in a pot, they try to escape. However, when you have two or more crabs in a pot, whenever one tries to escape, all of the other crabs pull that crab back in with them.
Folks, this is exactly what dream stealers do. They don’t like others who try to get out of their comfort zone and do something great.
You need to remember this so you NEVER let it happen to you.
If someone is constantly hating on you for trying to do something different, and improve your life, you should avoid that person like the plague. They truly don’t have your best interest at heart. They are a dream stealer, and if you let them, they will steal your dream!
What do you think about dream stealers? Do you know any? What do you do to minimize their impact in your life and business? Leave a comment below to let me know what you think. I look forward to hearing from you.