Don’t Babysit Your MLM Distributors, Team or Downline

Babysitting your downline is a huge mistake that many novice and experienced network marketers make.

It leads to burn out, frustration, disappointment, resentment, decreased productivity, and even anger.  As a leader, you have to realize that all of us are adults, even if people don’t act like it.

Your job as a network marketing professional is to lead and inspire your people, not to babysit them.

When I say the word “babysit” I am referring to the act of “constant” hand holding, babying, coddling, and and accepting your team member’s excuses for inaction and lack of results.

Lots of MLM distributors are so desperate to build a team that they will do next to anything for their team members.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s good to be a servant leader.  I think it’s good to support and help your team.  However, even though you may be a person’s sponsor, leader and even friend, you are NOT their babysitter.

It’s not your job to make sure they are doing what they are supposed to be doing.  It’s not your job to do more for them than they are willing to do for themselves.

It’s not your job to keep teaching them if they never apply what you teach them.  It’s not your job to sponsor people for them.  It’s not your job to keep them motivated.  It’s not your job to spend hours on the phone listening to a non-producer whine and complain.

You are a mentor, not a therapist.  You’re not their parent, boss or spouse either.  It’s not your job to always make them feel good about themselves or solve their depression and inaction.

don't babysit your mlm teamYour job as a network marketing leader is to INSPIRE people by your actions.  It’s your job to set the pace for your group.

It’s your job to coach and help the WILLING. It’s not your job to turn crap into ice cream. It’s not your job to constantly listen to people’s problems.

Yes, this is a people business.  And yes, there is a fine line of what you should do and what you shouldn’t do.

In my thirteen years in this industry I have discovered that the people who take up the most of your time typically do the least to build their business.

Many of these folks are always looking for a “secret tip” or some “extra motivation” to give them a cutting edge, but at the end of the day these same folks seldom go out and apply what they’ve learned from you.  They might be motivated and crave knowledge, but they are typically non-producers.  They’re always getting ready to get ready.

Yes, it’s your job to support everyone  on your team (to a degree).  But, you have to have boundaries and limitations.  It’s your job to help everyone get started right, and to give them the basic fundamental knowledge about the business during their first month or two, but it’s not your job to constantly babysit people, and make sure they become successful.

After all, time is your most precious asset.  You have an entire team to support, a job to maintain and a family to love and spend time with.  Make sure you spend your time with the right people. And know when to let people go.

In most cases, your best people will be self starters anyway.  They might need guidance from time to time, but most of the time they will figure things out on their own!  That’s why they are leaders and producers.

I’m not writing this post to sound harsh, even if it comes across that way.  Instead, I am writing this post to increase your awareness so you can be a GOOD sponsor and upline and not get taken advantage of by your team!

And remember this; it’s easy to spend a lot of time with everyone on your team when you only have a few people on your team.  But what happens when your team grows to 500, 1000 or even 5000 people?  There isn’t enough time in the day to work with that many people.

The last thing you want is everyone DEPENDENT on you.  Think about how much life would suck if you had 500 team members calling you every day to help them solve their own problems. You would probably leave the business.  I know I would.

What you really want to do is transfer your knowledge as quickly as possible so people are INDEPENDENT of you as quickly as possible.  You want to mentor your few leaders, have them mentor their people, have them mentor their people, and so forth. That’s the true beauty of what this industry offers.

What are your thoughts?  What do you think about babysitting your team?  Leave a comment below to let me know what you think.  I look forward to hearing from you.

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6 thoughts on “Don’t Babysit Your MLM Distributors, Team or Downline

  1. Nicole

    I agree, you can’t get stuck babysitting your team. You need to be doing the business and you need them to get busy working in the business too. I let them know that I will help them to a point but they have to learn to help themselves. The saying about giving a man a fish vs teaching him how to fish applies here. The team will be much more successful if you teach them how to work instead of doing all the work for them.

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    1. chuckholmes Post author

      It’s a much better idea to work smart and work with the people that are willing. Trying to babysit or manage your team is a complete waste of time.

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  2. Kristen

    I completely agree with you on this one. Babysitting your team is bad for everyone in the long run. If you are constantly doing things for those who won’t, then they’re never really discovering how to do it on their own. And you, as the leader will end up resentful. The best approach is to support and guide, and if they aren’t willing to try to make it on their own, maybe they’re not cut out for it.

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    1. chuckholmes Post author

      We are all adults. Ultimately, it’s our job to work with the willing. You can’t really motivate someone to do something they aren’t willing to do.

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  3. Greg Boudonck

    Yes Chuck, it does sound harsh, but that is fine. As network marketers, this needs to be understood. I would even go so far as to say that as you have new people sponsored, that a person should in a way say these same things to them. It is one thing to work with and help them from time to time, but you shouldn’t have to change their diapers and feed them day in and day out.

    I believe this can be a huge issue with many network marketers. They are so nice, and want people to stay in that they do the persons whole job for them. There are those times when you must kick them from the nest and tell them to fly.

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    1. chuckholmes Post author

      Most people who do this business, including myself, might have experience as managers or leaders or as a supervisor. However, network marketing is very different. This is a leadership business. It’s easier to pull someone that push them. No one has to listen to you. You are no one’s boss. That’s what makes this industry so unique. Where most people mess up, is they spend more time trying to convince someone to do something rather than just go out and find someone who wants it.

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