Today, I want to take a few moments and talk to you about dealing with a negative spouse in network marketing. This is something that MOST people in our industry have to deal with, so it’s an important topic to discuss.
The Power of 2
Let me begin by telling you that there is NOTHING more powerful than having two partners working together towards a common goal. When a husband and wife team (or domestic partnership team) work together to build their network marketing business they can achieve phenomenal success in record time. Two people working together, toward the same goal, can easily outperform what one specific person can do. Two people working together is VERY powerful, but it’s also very, very rare.
First and foremost, you should understand that opposites attract. There is a good chance you and your spouse are opposites. You might be the risk taker whereas they like to play it safe. You might be the outgoing people person while they might be the introvert. You might be entrepreneurial whereas they have the employee mindset. Get the picture?
Based upon my own personal experience I’ve found that in about 70 out of 100 cases, one spouse is excited about the business and other spouse is negative. In about 30 out of 100 cases, one spouse is excited and the other one is neutral. And in about 1 out of 100 cases, both partners are equally excited about the business opportunity. I don’t have industry stats to validate these numbers. Instead, these stats are based on my own personal observations.
Another common observation I’ve noticed is that when the woman is excited about the business, the couple almost ALWAYS does the business. However, when the woman is negative about the business, the husband usually backs out or retreats, even if he is really interested. This is probably because women typically control the household finances and because most men do not want an unhappy wife.
If I had to choose, I would ALWAYS rather have the woman excited about the business, rather than the man. Once again, you should always share the presentation or products to BOTH partners at the same time. Otherwise, you are doing yourself (and them) a huge injustice. Keep in mind that the person you shared it with won’t be able to explain it to their partner as well as you did, so it just makes more sense to show both of them at the same time.
How to Deal with an Negative Spouse in Network Marketing
Now that we have that out of the way, let me teach you how to deal with a negative spouse in network marketing.
No One Should Control You
First off, it’s your life to live. No one, including your spouse, has the right to tell you what you can or can’t do for a career unless what you are doing is immoral, illegal or unethical. Your spouse didn’t choose your current profession for you, nor do they have the right to tell you that you can or can’t start your own business. If your spouse is trying to control what you do for a career, the two of you should consider having a talk with a licensed professional marriage therapist. Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.
Quit the Business
Your next option is to quit the business. If you do this, remember you are setting a huge precedent. You are showing your spouse they control your decisions. Whatever they tell you to do, you have to do it.
Keep it a Secret
Your next option is to start building a business, but keep it a secret. I’m not a huge fan of “marital” secrets myself, but this might work for some people. You can start building your business in your free time, but not bring it up in a conversation with your spouse.
Just be a Customer
Your next option is to simply be a customer. Instead of building a business, you just use the products and focus on your job or career.
Have the TALK
The most important thing to do is to have a talk with your spouse. Let them know WHY you want to build a business. Ask them for their support or to at least be neutral. If you take the time to sit down with them and explain why you want to build a business, they are more likely to be supportive. Keep in mind if you have done MLM in the past, but never followed through, put in the work, or built a big business, your spouse has a reason to be negative and skeptical.
Work on Probationary Period
Your next option is to do the business on a probationary period. Ask your spouse to give you a one year probationary period with the business, so you can give it your best shot and see what you can accomplish. At the end of the year, if your business hasn’t grown to a reasonable level, then you will quit, revert to being a customer, or just continue on a limited part-time basis. I think this is a sound option for most people.
Build it Big, Regardless of What They Think
Another option is to build it anyway. I once heard a successful distributor say there is no such thing as a negative spouse when you are making $10k to $20k per month. I agree. If your spouse is negative, just tell them that if they want to help you spend the money you earn, they have to be supportive or at least neutral.
Show your spouse by your actions that you are going to put in the work and get the business built. Many spouses are negative because their partner has tried several MLMs in the past with no success. If that’s the case, they have a right to be negative or skeptical. The only way to overcome that is to get your business built quickly! Let your actions speak louder than your words.
Introduce Your Spouse to the Team
Furthermore, get your spouse around some other spouses in the business, especially around spouses of successful distributors in the company. Bring your spouse to an event to meet the spouses and to see the “big picture.” Maybe they could connect with them, talk about their fears, and get a better sense of understanding about the business and why you are doing what you are doing.
Share Your Progress
My next tip is to keep your spouse updated and share your progress with them each month. Share your profit and loss statement with them. Show them how many people joined your team in the previous month. Show them your bonus check. Assuming you are putting in the work and growing your business, your income should go up each month.
The last thing I can share with you is to always love your spouse. Be positive and encouraging. Treat them well, even if they are unsupportive or negative. Chances are they will come around, IF you stick with it, put in the work and do what you said you were going to do.
There you have it folks. These are some of my best tips on how to deal with a negative spouse in network marketing. I hope you will take the information in this post and share it with your team members who are going through the same issues.
What are your thoughts? What are your best tips about how to deal with a negative spouse in network marketing? Leave a comment below to let me know what you think. I look forward to hearing from you.