Does anyone really enjoy criticism? I really doubt it. But, criticism is a fact of life. There is no getting around it, so we must deal with it.
As I see it, there are 4 types of criticism:
- Meant to be constructive but is actually destructive
- and Meant to be destructive but is actually constructive
I have also noticed that some people and certain jobs, hobbies and businesses attract more criticism than others. We writers gain our fair share (and probably more), and network marketers, MLM companies and the direct sales industry also gets a substantial amount of criticism.
In today’s post, I am going to give you some advice on the top 7 ways on how to deal with criticism.
And to add to these, there are quotes that fit.
Deal With Criticism #1: Listen Closely
Many of us have this internal defensive wall we have built to battle against criticism. Part of that defense, when we know we are about to be critiqued, is to close off our hearing. Or we begin to plot a response without hearing the criticism completely.
You will discover that if you listen closely to the complete critique, it may not come out the way you were expecting. But even if it does come as expected, you show the person you can “handle” their criticism and if it is constructive, you will learn from it. If it is destructive, you are shooting down their goal of getting you “worked up.”
“Remember: when people tell you something’s wrong or doesn’t work for them, they are almost always right. When they tell you exactly what they think is wrong and how to fix it, they are almost always wrong.” Neil Gaiman
Deal With Criticism #2: Determine Intentions
After listening completely, take a moment to process what that person’s intentions are in critiquing you. You can do this by past patterns and their demeanor during the critique session.
By knowing the person’s intentions, you can judge your next actions.
“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” Norman Vincent Peale
Deal With Criticism #3: Respond Professionally
No matter if the intentions are constructive or destructive, the professional will respond with a thank you for the feedback. And never will a professional get defensive and argue about the critique.
I would go so far to say that, with a smile, you do correct any inaccuracies the criticizer has voiced, but without using an arguing or debating attitude.
I suggest if you think the criticism is of a destructive format, you leave your response at a thank you and proceed no further. Either change the subject or excuse yourself from the meeting.
But, if the critique is constructive, I suggest going farther and asking the person their suggestions on how to change and if they will help you.
“Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.” Zig Ziglar
Deal With Criticism #4: An Opportunity For Personal Growth
No matter if the criticism is constructive or meant to be destructive, it provides you with an opportunity to personally grow:
- It helps you see your weaknesses so you know where you need to grow
- Destructive criticism allows you to stand in forgiveness and be the “bigger man (or woman)”
- Criticism is a learning tool
- It expands your thinking and opens you to new perspectives
“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Deal With Criticism #5: Don’t Take It Personally
I know this is one of the most difficult tips to follow. But let me be straight with you here… Constructive criticism is not meant to attack your person but to help you mend a weak area. Destructive criticism is meant to attack you as a person usually, but if you take it personally, the destructor has accomplished what their goal.
It makes no sense to take it personally either way, so don’t.
“If you take everything personally and to heart, it will tear you apart. Take criticism, learn, adjust, and move on.” Johnny Iuzzini
Deal With Criticism #6: Make A Plan To Change
Okay, you received some criticism and you realize there is truth in it.
Now you need to determine what actions you can take to change that issue.
I am going to use an example:
Your MLM sponsor simply critiques you and says that you tend to “talk over” prospects when you are trying to recruit.
Wait! You have had friends tell you the same thing in other scenarios.
The easiest method to fix this is to consciously decide you WILL NOT talk until the other person is completely done saying what they have to say. But while doing this, you will listen more intently and when you think they are done talking, wait 3 seconds to ensure they are.
Start practicing doing this with everyone, not just prospects.
“We need very strong ears to hear ourselves judged frankly, and because there are few who can endure frank criticism without being stung by it, those who venture to criticize us perform a remarkable act of friendship, for to undertake to wound or offend a man for his own good is to have a healthy love for him.” Michel de Montaigne
Deal With Criticism #7: Don’t Give Destructive Criticism Any Power
The power of destructive criticism lies in the response of the receiver. I like to equate it to a rabbit (the negative criticism) trying to fight an alligator (you).
If you even respond to it, it gains power and that rabbit could grow into Elmer Fudd with a double-barrel shotgun. Ignore the criticism and it stays a rabbit and will soon be “gobbled up” by the alligator.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.
So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt
That last quote by Teddy Roosevelt says it all.
You are a Network Marketer! You stand in the arena and are battling for success. Use criticism as a step toward that success and not as an elevator to failure.
I hope these tips help you. If you have any questions, feel free to post them below.
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About The Author
Greg Boudonck is a full-time freelance writer and book author. You have probably read many of his articles either ghostwritten or in his name. You can find his books on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and more. Be sure and visit Greg’s website which is LancerLife.com.